Erotic love is overrated. It's a biochemical experience which smoothens the process of reproduction. A biological trick even. But it doesnt last forever and it isn't that important. The unspoken truth is, sex is a gross chore. It truly is like a conspiracy where everyone is covering up the truth. Practising the ritual of sex initiates you into the order and makes you a guardian of the Big Secret hidden in plain sight. Well it's time for someone to admit the truth and drop the bomb, and if it has to be me then so be it.
In media it is portrayed that people have these 'insane sex' lives, doing things such as playing dress up or practising sadism. As if wearing a funny hat or straight up hurting yourself will disguise the obvious. Sex sucks. The desperate pursuit of orgasm will simply lead you to an unhealthy and quite frankly embarrassing place. Probably, the key to maintaining a healthy sexuality is to allow the fleeting mist of eros to wash over you just long enough to reproduce and then letting it go.
Hostile entities (normies) will turn around and accuse you of 'not doing it right' or make out that you have something wrong with you. Meanwhile who knows what unsavoury methods they resort to to 'squeeze one out'. It's one of those things that they will never admit to.
True, balanced, healthy and lasting emotional and intellectual satisfaction can be found in a partnership, in philia. Ancient greek philosophers such as Aristotle concluded the same.